Ultimately, the lover saw himself as serving the all-powerful god of love and worshipping his lady-saint. The philosophy found little precedent in other, older cultures.
Conditions in the castle civilization of 11th-century southern France, however, were favourable to a change of attitude toward women.
tells us that love is "A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness." We still wonder if love can be described in a simple dictionary definition.
In The Art of Courtly Love Capellanus gives us a straightforward definition much like this one in the beginning of the book.
The idea spread swiftly across Europe, and a decisive influence in that transmission was Eleanor of Aquitaine, wife first to Louis VII of France and then to Henry II of England, who inspired some of the best poetry of Bernard de Ventadour, among the last (12th century) and finest of troubadour poets.
Her daughter Marie of Champagne encouraged the composition of Chrétien de Troyes’s ), a courtly romance whose hero obeys every imperious (and unreasonable) demand of the heroine.
(p.30) Later, he also says that love may not exist within religious officials and that love from a woman who is too concerned with greed and money is a "deadly enemy" (p.145).
From these statements one would fall under the impression that there is no love between a mother and a daughter or a father and a son.
The Courts of Love were presided over by Marie de Champagne and Eleanor D' Aquitaine.
The question as to what love is, is an age-old question that men and women have pondered since the beginning of time.